... Damned if you do...
Posted 2008-Aug-4 @ 07:03
Let me start by saying, I have no idea what I am doing.
I have never raised a child, and I have only been married to Liz for 4 months.
When I come home and I am told "she is driving me nuts" and the child won't stop yapping "I'm hungry" and I can see my wife getting more and more frustrated while she is cooking dinner, it is my first instinct to send the child to a new task. Play with toys in room.
Apparently... that is the wrong thing to do. Why? Because the child cries, and when the child cries... I get yelled at.
Damned if you don't... well it doesn't seem to matter at this point because I am already in trouble for the child carrying on, but had I not done anything I would have caught just as much shit.
Note to self: Don't try to save wife from child.
I have never raised a child, and I have only been married to Liz for 4 months.
When I come home and I am told "she is driving me nuts" and the child won't stop yapping "I'm hungry" and I can see my wife getting more and more frustrated while she is cooking dinner, it is my first instinct to send the child to a new task. Play with toys in room.
Apparently... that is the wrong thing to do. Why? Because the child cries, and when the child cries... I get yelled at.
Damned if you don't... well it doesn't seem to matter at this point because I am already in trouble for the child carrying on, but had I not done anything I would have caught just as much shit.
Note to self: Don't try to save wife from child.
shadowrose said...
Posted 2008-Aug-4 @ 09:11
Sounds like a catch 22 situation.
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Chica said...
Posted 2008-Aug-4 @ 09:57
She's just stressed is all, I'm the same way with my husband, although he doesn't get home until midnight, and every night I tell him about my day and how hard or easy it was, like he really needs that layed on him, but he knows it makes me feel better.
Just ask her what she'd like you to do. If that gets you in trouble, I have no other advice then to tell her to go take a hot bath while you handle things.
Just ask her what she'd like you to do. If that gets you in trouble, I have no other advice then to tell her to go take a hot bath while you handle things.
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WelshPixie said...
Posted 2008-Aug-5 @ 02:10
Venting is good. So, good start.
Talk to her about it. Tell her you're not sure how she would have liked youto handle the situation but you'd like to know what to do, because this is new to you, and because ultimately all you want is to make sure her and the child are happy.
Talk to her about it. Tell her you're not sure how she would have liked youto handle the situation but you'd like to know what to do, because this is new to you, and because ultimately all you want is to make sure her and the child are happy.
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texican said...
Posted 2008-Aug-5 @ 05:56
Don't look at me...I divorced my wife because she's such a crappy mother.
Ironically, the kids live with her (for now) and I still have to parent over the phone when she can't handle them. Lucky for her that I moved from Texas to Oregon to be closer to them.
Ironically, the kids live with her (for now) and I still have to parent over the phone when she can't handle them. Lucky for her that I moved from Texas to Oregon to be closer to them.
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